I've been thinking at the matter of girls way of thoughts. Now, the thing I don't get it is why guys cheated on them on a few occasions and they can still forget about it and treat it like nothing ever happened. I have put myself in the their shoes multiple times and I just couldn't figure it out. Is it for the sake of love they had for us boys? or perhaps they do not want to feel lonely again and handle the comments friends make after it? or even maybe they choose not to experience another level of getting to know a better guy?
As I put myself in their shoes, I would always think that once my partner cheated on me, there wouldn't be a turning back for the relationship. The trust, the hope, the security of the relationship built by all the memories and time we spent, just broken up like that giving you the thoughts 'what bout both of them? how much memories she made with you compared with the other person?' Would this thinking of mine being selfish? or not being understanding? or just pure strict of principalities?
Enlighten me friends.
Its nvr abt the comments of friends they're going to receive. A partner cheats because there's something bad going on in the relationship that makes her feel unwanted, she probably wasn't receiving the same attention as before or maybe she expects it to be taken to a deeper level considering the time you've spend together with her. She still wants to hold on to you to see if there's still hope that something will rekindle the relationship. At the same time, she's slowly giving up on you, keeping her options open to dating other people probably also because she thought you must have been seeing someone else other than her anyway. Do you occasionally send her spontaneous messages that you miss her? How many times when you say I love you and it wasn't because you want sex from her. How many times when you go shopping with her, you started admiring the physique of another female and not her? How many times when she text you, you reply promptly as if you're really paying attention to her needs and give her emotional support when she's stressed over work? How many times when she nagged at you, and you yawn and wish you were doing something else? How many times when you guys argue, you waited for her to apologise instead of you initiating it first? Did you ever hesitate to introduce her or involved her in family occasions because you think your relationship won't last with her? Did you ever complain that she spend a lot of your money and she only knows how to give you trouble? But in the end of the day, it was her and not your friends that help you when you needed support. Because if you did all of the above, and she must have been hurt but still tolerated you until now...i think you just handed her a license to cheat. Because nobody wants a boyfriend like that. Going through storms like that are difficult, I also think that if there's still love in there, the relationship deserves a second chance. Trust can be reestablish again after a long period of time. However, if she's in love with someone else, no point pursuing her. Maybe she wasn't even into you since the beginning, or you're just a stepping stone for her to achieve more fruitful relationships. Maybe one day she just woke up and realise she deserves better. I know this comment might sound bias to you, that's simply from the perspective of a girl who use to have shitty boyfriends even though she treated them like kings. Too bad they didn't make her feel like a queen.
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